Well we get paid days off for a mother or father in law so please stop pretending you were a upser.
. we went to salt lake city for the funeral and i was paid 4 days. I got a call from spouse that father died and i called out and they wanted a reason and i told them it was none of their business. i then called payroll and told them about the death in the family so i could get the 4 days funeral leave. had to show them the obituary before they would pay. the point i was trying to make is you don't have to give a reason. sorry you misunderstood. i know i'm not very articulate sometimes.
this was around 15 years ago so i had to ask spouse about it. lost my mother the year before i retired but my dad told us kids there would be no service since we were all there the week before she died . ( flew cross country ) . she died the day after i got home and he didn't want us all flying back. didn't receive funeral leave/pay for that.
hope that explains things for you.