North Dakota, the Plains, New England, the Mid-Atlantic, the Mid-West, the Rockies it doesn’t matter the example applies. Even if you live in a winter friendly area—there is always somewhere better.
I think you’ve been watching a little too much of a particular news channel that likes to sensationalize thing.
You can find issues everywhere. For example: southern Florida (especially Miami) is overrun with illegal immigrants, gangs, crime, drugs, Eurotrash, and is unaffordable both in terms of property prices and insurance to protect the investment from natural disaster. Doesn’t mean there aren’t pockets in that same area that are some of the nicest places in the country to live (Fischer island, Golden Beach). Same is true for areas of California (La Jolla Farms, Del Mar Beach, the Platinum Triangle of LA).
Spouting off like one area has issues and that another doesn’t ignores reality. Otherwise more than a few of us would be living in Hawaii (which has issues like living on an active volcano in the middle of the Pacific).
Complaining about cost of living issues while ignoring the benefits of living there is an absolute joke.
You want to live in low cost of living states like Alabama or Mississipp have at it. Just don’t be surprised when your kids leave as soon as they can.