You can only reach out so much. Knew a guy lost his job, got it back, EAP. I never asked never knew, just saw him at the bar one night, and said you should not be doing this, it only replaces that.
Last time I saw him was there, he got fired again the next day. His response to me was are you my mother or my friend, stfu. So I said I am your friend, which you dont have many now, do you need a ride? No he didnt, I left, and never saw him again.
He was a great friend, I thought til then. Had a lot thrown at him marriage wise.
He was a good person. Heart of gold, it ruined him, I have no idea how a bad marriage could ruin his life. Or anyones. I guess it is the mindset, we need to teach resiliance in schools.