What do I do.

[Mugarolla]

Super. We're not going to rehash the "Feeder rules" debate.

In either case, he need not tell anybody

Agreed. On both issues.

 

[dumbmuthertrucker]

Call an attorney. My oldest kid got 2 speeding tix in two years and paid less than $100 each to have them reduced. One was reduced to "faulty muffler", and the other to "tail light broken".
Not only did it keep the tix off her record, but kept our insurance down.