Read post #23 slowly.
Hint:
My friend didn't have to do anything in appreciation of the "tuff guy" winning a large grievance for him.
In fact, the "tuff guy" commented, "no one has ever done this before" when handed the gift card.
You decided to minimize the gesture by discounting the $100 as if it wasn't enough.
Would $200 be better? $300?, $400?
Something is better than nothing.
Negotiate your ego.
I read #23 , every consonant and syllable.
Negotiate my ego?
Lost my ego over 40yrs ago.
When I have a grievance it rarely is solved by money.
As far as gestures, just last week in Houston, Tx in a Kroger store a young(18yr old) man cashier was bagging and checking when he stopped and opened a carton of eggs to make sure there was not a broken one before he put them in the bag.
That was the customer before me.
Before he checked me out I handed him a $20 bill and he asked me what was this for?
I just said I saw what you did and few would do it.
That's the way I gesture.
That young man earned my respect and I rewarded him.
I well remember when I was his age when that amount of money would be a God send.
He earned that money by caring about his job.
Seeing his smile lifted my ego.
Demanding recompense and earning it are on different sides of the ledger, in my book.
