Have you considered that your playground attitude of "sides" might be the real problem?
Of course not. Picking sides is what we've been conditioned for. Rejecting such becomes a seeming impossible task but such is also an illusion too. When one is fully absorbed into collectivism, group mentality and judging another by group standards, it seems quite natural, quite normal. Standing for something, even standing alone is not normal. You say yes but the group sez no so the group is right and you are wrong because the group doesn't agree with you. Majority only makes it right.
It is not what the herd, even the herd of one side does, the action of you will, that is judged right or wrong. It is only wrong when the majority see it that way and thus based on numbers judge it so. One just follows the herd not because it is right at a philosophical or moral level but because as the herb goes it just feels right because everyone else in the herd sez it is so. If you can't think and act like my herd, you are the enemy. Us & Them. Praise my flag, worship my god, love my geography or else. No thinking allowed, no questions tolerated. FVK that
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It also suggest such persons need someone else to lead them as they are unwilling to lead themselves. They reject the ideals of self governance and true individual responsibility, even self discovery for the comforts of a leash so they can be lead around by others. Thus no thinking required, no questions needed!