Read the customer reviews at the bottom part of the page. The consumers are no dummies!! I don't see howanyone could purchase this book after glancin at the reviews!!
Seven Basic Needs of a Wife: Bill Gothard Ph.D.: Amazon.com: Books
But one of the
reviewers had it about right concerning this book.
The previous reviews obviously do not understand that this is a Christian guide to having a wife. All of what is said in here is a basic rundown of what is said in the Bible. Sure women have a reason to be upset with it as they should be upset with the bible. If you are Christian maybe you should try reading the bible before giving this author a bad rep because he's just repeating what is said in there.
and then a replier to the review sez this:
This may have been what the Bible said that was useful 2000 years ago. There is no way men should be treating women as property in 2013. If you want this kind of lifestyle, go to Afghanistan. If you want to be a modern man, and have a loving equal relationship with your spouse, throw this book away.
Gothard use to do these huge seminars in large sports arenas back in the mid-80's and 2 couples we were friends with (oddly mostly the wives) were just absolute that Gothard was the "it" that everyone needed for the perfect life/marriage. They brow beat us to the point that my wife and I agreed to go. I mean it was all day long for an entire week and the 15k plus seat arena was packed almost beyond standing room only. I realized in going that Gothard to so many was almost deity himself and these 2 ladies especially had an idol worship of the man almost to the point of a fetish. And these ladies were both dogmatic that following Gothard would make a marriage invincible and too their credit they really wanted the so-called perfect marriage, wanted you to have it so what they sought was genuine albeit maybe not realistic.
My wife and I found so much of what Gothard said problematic and even beyond the marriage narrative. We did not follow his advice nor worship him as I think we were suppose too now looking back. We think that was the intent of brow beating us into going in the first place. The fact that we did not/would not follow the prescribed plan, this created a huge crack in our friendships and within a year or so they would have almost nothing to do with us. That's one way to remove the cognitive dissonance.
At the time of the seminar, we'd been married for just under 5 years and yet I'm very sad to say within 10 years those 2 couples who worshiped Gothard were divorced. Yet, come April, my wife and I will celebrate our 33rd wedding anniversary so in one sense, Gothard showed us what not to do and for us it seems to have worked out.
Gothard to his credit (along with other factors) also provoked me to actually read the bible cover to cover, learn it's languages from which it comes, it's history and the basis of it's culture and boy was that a game changer. Then again, I don't think from Gothard's POV that was his actual intent nor was my outcome what he had in mind. Opps!
them up good.