Brownslave688
You want a toe? I can get you a toe.
Why cut back on the retirement?First: 19% going into retirement is awesome...but a little premature before you're in a house. Cut back the 401k to about 3-8%. It's ok to only put 10-15% into retirement for you right now.
Second: Get into a good house for your present needs. A starter home is perfect. 90%+ of women will want to pick out their own home, so buying a "family" home isn't super important for you.
Third: 20% down is going to be about $100 a month per 100K borrowed cheaper on insurance for the lender (in case you default). That money is thrown away.
Fourth: in 5 years, if/when you move up in home your equity will move with you and you'll only have to save that 20% once.
He really doesn't NEED a home and that money he puts away now will be worth way more when retirement comes