You don't have to be a mechanic to open the hood, jump start a truck, wiggle a wire or follow simple instructions. Common sense and cooperation probably could have averted the entire fiasco. It certainly could have made it less severe.
I agree that cooperation can be a one way street, but you are guaranteed to get resistance and grief if you don't cooperate. Sometimes when you cooperate it works out. Try cussing out a cop while asking for a break. Not cooperating with the authorities, whether its a cop, a judge, a referee, your boss or anyone else in charge rarely ever works out in your favor, especially when you work with them everyday.
As far a discipline goes, the lowest form that is effective is what is prescribed. If you're a jerk and won't cooperate, you're like going to get the maximum. If you respond favorably to a simple verbal request, that's often the end of it.
Who's hand is it in...your own. Make your call and live with it. Just don't be surprised when you see a cooperative person get off with a warning, while an uncooperative trouble maker gets a termination (or a few extra tickets, fines, penalties in the case of a cop, judge, or referee) for the same offense.