I'll bet over 50% on this site has been divorced at least once. And if you've known this chump since you were 15, be thankful that you now have the time to get to know yourself. This is very valuable. Don't be so concerned with taking him to the chopping block. People grow up in different directions,
which happens quite often. If he can offer you spousal support, take it.
But this damsel in distress thing just ain't getting it. I'm sure you're capable or earning a living yourself and there are great people out there that you can meet. Take responsibility for yourself, stop your pity party and move on. BTDT.