To BeReavement leave or NOT to BeReavement leave

[scooby0048]

I went out of my way to be supportive of the OP and was respectful toward Tooner.

I took no offense and I do appreciate the sentiments. I was expecting alot of harsh criticizing regarding the the service being video conference which so far, has not been the case as the responses are positive.

 

[scooby0048]

Last time I took bereavement my sup said he wanted a picture of the body with me in the picture.

I think I would have been escorted off the property in cuffs after pummeling the meatsleeve who made a comment like that to me. 99% of the time, I can overlook or even laugh at inappropriate comments, that one...don't think so.

 

[Indecisi0n]

Why would you care about what others think?

 

[superballs63]

99% of the time they take you at your word. Every once in a while they will request documentation, such as an obituary from the paper or a handout from the service itself.

That's when you tell them to shove their request up their butts. It's not like calling in sick 3 days in a row and needing a doctor's note.

 

[scooby0048]

Why would you care about what others think?

Are you referring to my thoughts about video confrence? Because up until yesterday, I would have been one of those people who really thinks that was distasteful. That is until it was me in that position that it was done in a classy manner of which made me feel alot better about not making it to the service.

As far as caring what others think, I didn't say that I do. I was simply relating that I expected (yet that has not been the case) to be chastised for doing it because there are still people out there who are so old fashioned and set in their ways that they could not fathom the concept of videoing a funeral.

 

[Indecisi0n]

Are you referring to my thoughts about video confrence? Because up until yesterday, I would have been one of those people who really thinks that was distasteful. That is until it was me in that position that it was done in a classy manner of which made me feel alot better about not making it to the service.

As far as caring what others think, I didn't say that I do. I was simply relating that I expected (yet that has not been the case) to be chastised for doing it because there are still people out there who are so old fashioned and set in their ways that they could not fathom the concept of videoing a funeral.

This is why I try not to judge people for their actions until I've walked a mile in their shoes. I'm not perfect but I try to be as close as I can.

 

[soberups]

I think I would have been escorted off the property in cuffs after pummeling the meatsleeve who made a comment like that to me. 99% of the time, I can overlook or even laugh at inappropriate comments, that one...don't think so.

I would have held him down while you pummeled him.

 

[bleedinbrown58]

Well, I ooVoo'd it but in other words, yeah I video conferenced a funeral. My mother and sister knew how upset I was about not getting there fast enough and they knew my Yiaya would have approved. This was also discussed with other members of the family and the priest for their approval.

While you might find this tacky, I could not be there and it was my sisters and mother who suggested it. I was hesitant to say the least but I am so thankful it happened because I got to hear and see the service and slept easier knowing that they did a fantastic job honoring her memory with the sermon.

It's not common but I don't think it's tacky.

 

[scooby0048]

It's not common but I don't think it's tacky.

Thanks, appreciate that

 

[bleedinbrown58]

Thanks, appreciate that

No prob.

 

[UpstateNYUPSer(Ret)]

I took no offense and I do appreciate the sentiments. I was expecting alot of harsh criticizing regarding the the service being video conference which so far, has not been the case as the responses are positive.

I will admit that I was surprised when you said that you watched the service via Oovoo and that my immediate reaction was much like yours but after thinking about it and reading that you had run it by your family and the minister I applaud your decision.