Your right. I will tell that to my father-in-law. He has never given and feels that the UW is a waste of time.
Right now, my father-in-law, the cheapmizer, is sitting at a Amvet Post, cracking jokes with other WWII vets.
Because, his daughter-in-law, me, found respite care or a babysitter for my mother-in-law, with dementia because a UW Agency pointed me in the right direction.
My father-in-law is a filthy rich bastard. He will has never given to any organization. He refuses to even sponser me on a MS walk (I asked him the night I posted this...). He could pay for this respite care (and allow more people to benefit from this worthy agency providing us with respite care), out of pocket, but he is a foolish old man.
Instead, my husband and I pay (paying is not the problem - I felt under appreciated by the situation when I posted) a simple $20 for a four hour stretch of care - to provide US (family members) with a break from the stress of being care givers. And tonight, I am being billed by a transport company to get that cheap bastard, (even guys like him need to walk away from stress) out of the house and for a caregiver to assist his wife or my mother-in-law in their home. (He had fun and he talked to other WWII Vets. He met guys that went on my other pet project, Honor Flight to the WWII Memorial. He actually asked me about Honor Flight - making it all worth it.)
The (respite) agency receives funding from the United Way.
So for the guilt trip...stick it. (Sorry, this was rude of me and I should have refrained from the emotion.)
It won't work on the cheap bastard, so why would guilt work on you or anyone else.
And when I say, United Way Agencies will still be there for you, regardless if you give or not give...my father-in-law is absolutely NOT WORTHY of help. (Sorry, this was rude of me and I should have refrained from the emotion. Everyone is worthy of help when needed.)
So before you ( I attacked fellow UPSer's - misdirected situational emotion) slam the door on the United Way...freaking do some GD research.
I really am tired of people pissing all over the United Way.
Give or don't give.
I will still purchase Girl Scout Cookies from your daughter or grandchild. Those coupon book's that I never use, you can sign me up for one. Oh, you're walking in a 5k walk....of course, I will sponser you. Etc, etc, etc