I am like you...a woman with a UPS employee...here is what I say...make the most of the time you DO have together and don't focus on the time apart....we know they work long hours and that is par for the course. I just try to enjoy every minute I do have with him. Mine won't be bidding...he loves driving so I know if I want to be with him, I will have another 10 years of this weird schedule but my goal is to make it a easy as possible. Good luck!